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Home / Blog / News / Ten Things Adult Transracial Adoptees Want You to Know

Ten Things Adult Transracial Adoptees Want You to Know

June 10, 2020 by Emily Cain

This content was originally published by Creating a Family, the national infertility education and support nonprofit.

10 things Adult transracial adoptees want you to know

  1. Love your kids with your whole heart. Love may not be everything, but it is a great step in the right direction.
  2. Let your children know that you are always open to talking about adoption and race by bringing these topics up periodically. Look for opportunities in your everyday life where race or genetics or adoption comes up naturally.
  3. Every so often, check in with your child to see what they are experiencing with adoption and with transracial adoption. Don’t assume they will tell you on their own even if you are receptive to the conversation.
  4. It is easier if you adopt more than one child of color. Having someone else in the family of your race makes life easier.
  5. Hang out with other mixed race families. Your children need to see that there are other families that look like theirs. It is all the better if some of these families are also adoptive families.
  6. Especially for girls, seek out ways to show them that beautiful women come in all colors. Be aware of the media bias towards Caucasian beauty.
  7. Read books to and with your children with black characters and with characters that have been adopted transracially. Books of African, Haitian, etc. folktales are a good idea as well. Creating a Family has a list of the Best of the Best Transracial Adoption Books.
  8. Baby dolls of your child’s race are a good idea. At the very least it shows that you cared enough to try.
  9. Living in a diverse neighborhood does not solve all the racial problems. Your family will still stand out, but it may make it easier to find black role models and friends.
  10. Don’t pretend:
    1. that differences don’t exist.
    2. that race doesn’t matter.
    3. that everything is OK.

These suggestions came from a panel discussion of black young adults that were adopted by white families on a Creating a Family Radio show. Listen Here

Originally published in 2015 by Dawn Davenport on Creating a Family.

See the original blog post.

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