It’s 10:50 a.m. on Sunday at Costco. Our shopping trip is over. The cart is filled with all the massive-sized necessities we need, but we’re forced to kill ten minutes
Why Did My Birth Mom Give Me Up?
Most of the assignments I give my oldest son have to do with household chores – helping with pouring milk for dinner or putting laundry away. I caught Yosef off-guard
Lessons Martin Luther King Jr. Expects My Kids to Learn
I won’t let my kids file Martin Luther King, Jr. Day into the category of non-gift-giving holidays that serve only to close school for the day. No matter the age,
When the Child in the Picture is Finally Home | 3 Post Adoption Tips
The care center workers interrupted my son’s nap so that we could meet him for the first time almost nine years ago. In that moment, the little boy in the
During National Adoption Month, Just Ask
October’s color was hot pink in support of Breast Cancer Awareness. Hot pink was everywhere – whether on the cleats of N.F.L. players or on the bright socks of the
Three Ways I Avoided Being Initially Overwhelmed By The Prospect Of Adopting
When spreading the awareness of National Adoption Month during November, I try to stay away from the daunting statistics that tell the story of too many kids in the system
There Are No Adoption Oddballs
When my wife and I started our adoption process, I felt like an oddball – an adoption misfit. You see, I didn’t fit into any of the preconceived groups of
Can A White Guy Raise A Strong Black Man?
I am tasked with raising a strong black man and I’m afraid that I’m failing. Please don’t misunderstand, my son is great. Yosef is bright, charming, sweet and hardworking. By
A Letter to My Son’s Birth Mother
Celebrating the day we returned home with Yosef (a.k.a. “Gotcha Day”) has always been bittersweet for me. Our ninth Gotcha Day came and went on Friday of last week. We
Uncertainty is the Only Adoption Certainty
The gray clouds of uncertainty are omnipresent in adoption. I have come to accept this as fact. All parents experience unpredictability, but adoption amplifies it. The exaggerated uncertainty for me
