When your friends and family hear you’ve added a foster child to your family, there is a wide range of typical reactions. There are those that are less than supportive
“He’s mine, too.” A Reminder of Race While Grabbing In-Store Freebies
It’s 10:50 a.m. on Sunday at Costco. Our shopping trip is over. The cart is filled with all the massive-sized necessities we need, but we’re forced to kill ten minutes
Providing Tools for Success
Both Jack and Nate spent more than a decade of their life in an orphanage. Jack’s vision problems were so severely neglected, he was unable to see to complete his homework.
What I Wish I’d Known BEFORE I Adopted
Dear Prospective Adopter, I remember being where you are now—the heady excitement of what is to come, the giddy nerves of the all-important Panel,* the heart-melting magic of Matching. It
What Mother Am I?
Modern mothering is not easy. I blame most of this on the amount of information we are bombarded with every day. There are so many ideas on how to care
Letter to Their Foster Carers
Dear Ken and Mary (not your real names), You gave our children a home, when they needed it most. You kept them together, letting them stay with each other and
Why Did My Birth Mom Give Me Up?
Most of the assignments I give my oldest son have to do with household chores – helping with pouring milk for dinner or putting laundry away. I caught Yosef off-guard
Thankful for a Nightmare
“My daughter is always getting out of bed and coming in my room.” Before adoption, these comments brought a much different response in my heart and out of my mouth.
The Prodigal Son…Visits?
This is a post I never wanted to write. I just never thought things would turn out this way. Despite my best intentions, my hardest work, and all of my
What They Don’t Tell You About “Those Kids”
Once I took a precious baby I was entirely smitten with to a pediatric neurologist. That neurologist spent a few moments with this infant and then told me “those kids