Dear Prospective Adopter, I remember being where you are now---the heady excitement of what is to come, the giddy nerves of the all-important Panel,* the heart-melting magic of Matching. It is one
What Mother Am I?
Modern mothering is not easy. I blame most of this on the amount of information we are bombarded with every day. There are so many ideas on how to care for and raise children. And now, more than ever,
Letter to Their Foster Carers
Dear Ken and Mary (not your real names), You gave our children a home, when they needed it most. You kept them together, letting them stay with each other and stay connected to the only family they
Why Did My Birth Mom Give Me Up?
Most of the assignments I give my oldest son have to do with household chores – helping with pouring milk for dinner or putting laundry away. I caught Yosef off-guard with a recent request – one that
Thankful for a Nightmare
"My daughter is always getting out of bed and coming in my room." Before adoption, these comments brought a much different response in my heart and out of my mouth. Life changes when you bring home
The Prodigal Son…Visits?
This is a post I never wanted to write. I just never thought things would turn out this way. Despite my best intentions, my hardest work, and all of my love, this is where we stand. We started with a
What They Don’t Tell You About “Those Kids”
Once I took a precious baby I was entirely smitten with to a pediatric neurologist. That neurologist spent a few moments with this infant and then told me “those kids are mean.” He went on to make
Let’s Be Brave, White Parents of Future Black Men
My husband, Matt, is an excellent story teller. He comes alive in every detail of each moment in such a way that his stories can often be longer than the event they’re describing. He’s engaging and
Uncommon Visible Difference
There is an art to a successful adoption announcement when you are adopting a child with a visible difference. You learn to manage the situation, to set up the encounter in ways that you would never
Chinese New Year Celebration: From Germany to Houston to Taiyuan
Recently on a trip to LA I found myself up early. Still on East Coast time I flipped through the channels in my hotel room. After watching the daily news replay for the third time I flipped to an
